Why would a young, educated, and accomplished woman choose to spend her life as a Dominatrix? She could do anything else? She could marry well and never have to work. She could develop a corporate career. She could travel the globe. She could be a teacher, a professional, a volunteer. Why would she expose herself in this way, and bear the stigma associated with such a choice? It is not out of need, and much to many peoples surprise, it is not for money. She is not being forced or guided and she has other skills.
Some people are meant to be lawyers, or salespeople, or educators, or healers. This woman knows her purpose, so the question is not how could she be a Dominatrix, but how could she be anything else?
I am ultimately privileged to be living each day with purpose. My life as a Dominatrix has been an evolutionary process. From exploratory and business focused in the beginning to self affirming and expressionist. I couldn’t imagine life not being a Mistress, a Goddess, a Dominatrix. I am not a wife, or a mother or a business person. I am a Mistress, as simple as it sounds, it is a complex, and layered life. For a long time, I have maintained that no one man could ever totally satisfy My desires, regardless of the depth of his experience or wallet. As a dominant female, I don’t feel badly towards men, in fact it’s quite the opposite, I love the male and especially the male who is slave to the female.
I embrace this lifestyle so fully that it can even astound other lifestyle players. There should be no definitions on what D/s is. I believe that it is an art form and is to be interpreted and expressed as the participant and artist choose. I consider Myself an artist, and I express My passion through Domination and submission, BDSM. The best moments of My life have been experiential and sensational and have been in BDSM, meditation and sport. My purpose is to go below the surface, beyond superficial boundaries/limitations, to create and experience at the core.
Some people have expressed to me, they have concern that I will not be able to have a ‘normal’ relationship in the future because of My lifestyle as a Dominatrix. [Perhaps, this would be the case for some in similar positions; however, I am not them and my entire life I have differentiated myself from the crowd. I repel against being ordinary at all costs. An ongoing motivation for me is to not be one of the sheep, even though I believe that society absolutely needs sheep, I just won’t be one of them.] I feel sorry for them because they are missing the point. The quality and depth of an authentic D/s relationship is far greater than what could be accomplished in a vanilla setting. In D/s, the parties know each other deeply, they experience each other without the ‘normal’ boundaries. It is human expression in raw form. In my eyes, this is living! To be so deeply connected to another person, a connection so unique and one that couldn’t be repeated, so satisfying and intensely emotional. This is not being sheep, this is knowing the human condition and living it.Why waste your time sleeping through life? I won’t. I choose to live purposefully with BDSM as a tool. And those people are right, I will never be able to have a ‘normal’ relationship in the future because of what I know now, I would never settle for anything less than full concentration and devotion, pure passion and emotion. Being alive in life.
MD
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Hi Miss Divona, i just wanted to praise You on a well written piece of Your personal view of the lifestyle. You are absolutely correct on many points, especially about sharing something deeper and more raw than most vanilla couples will ever experience. i’m sure You made the right choice and Your life is much more rewarding as a result. As far as not being a teacher, professional or a volunteer, You are all of those and much more and that’s something to be proud of. Any male, myself included, would feel very fortunate to be on his knees bowing in Your presence.